Quizzes

Your Care Language | How Do You Show You Care?

Your friend is having a rough time. What's your first instinct?
Someone in your family is sick. What do you most want to do for them?
You want to make someone smile. Where does your mind go first?

Those gut reactions — gathered together — paint a picture of how you love. Not just romantically. The way you show up for anyone you care about, honestly and without thinking twice.

Check the things you would actually do, not the things that sound better. The more honest you are, the more the result sounds like you.

8 questions

Start with your first instinct

Choose the answer that feels most like you. Your result appears after every question is complete.

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Q1. A close friend texts you: "I've been feeling a bit down lately." What would you most likely do?

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Take a moment to think of just the right words — something that would really land for them — then send it Ask if they're free soon — you want to set aside real time to sit and talk Ask if there's anything you can help with, then get started on whatever that is Just show up. Being there beside them is enough

Q2. A family member is sick and resting at home. What do you most want to do for them?

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Say something warm and reassuring — let them know you're right here Stay home with them so they can call for you anytime they need Look up what medicine they should take, figure out what's easy on the stomach, and take care of it all Pick up something they love and bring it home — so they know you were thinking of them

Q3. You want to cheer someone up. What's your instinctive move?

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Say something only the two of you would get — the kind of thing that makes them laugh Make plans, pick somewhere they love, and spend real time together Quietly remember something they mentioned wanting, and bring it over when the moment feels right Move closer — give their shoulder a pat or squeeze their hand

Q4. Someone you care about has been really stressed lately. What do you most want to do?

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Send a message telling them: you've been working so hard, and I see it Quietly take care of that annoying thing they mentioned, before they have to ask Walk over and sit close to them — just so they can feel you're there Bring over that food they've been saying they want to try

Q5. Your friend just went through a breakup and is really hurting. What do you most likely do when you're with them?

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Stay right beside them the whole time — if they want to talk, you listen; if not, you just stay Handle all the small tasks they haven't had energy for, one by one Put a hand on their head or pull them into a hug — let them know they're not alone Grab a bag of their favourite snacks or drinks and quietly set it in front of them

Q6. A close friend is leaving for a long time. What do you most want to do before they go?

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Tell them genuinely how grateful you are and how much you'll miss them — so they can carry that with them Clear your schedule and spend the time just with them — a real, unhurried goodbye Help sort out all the last-minute odds and ends so they have one less thing to worry about Give them a long, proper hug before they go — something warm to take with them

Q7. Someone you care about just accomplished something really big. How do you most want to celebrate?

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Write something about how amazing they are — the kind of message they'll want to read again and again Take them out for a meal and genuinely listen to the whole story — celebrate it properly, together Quietly put together a little surprise and wait for them to discover it Get them something they've wanted for a while — to mark the day

Q8. In everyday life, which of these feel most like the way you show someone you care?

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Saying at just the right moment: "You did so well. I'm really proud of you." Saying nothing, just quietly finishing the thing they haven't had time for Walking over, standing next to them, leaning in gently so they feel your warmth Spotting a little something while you're out that feels so them, and just picking it up